Most of the people nowadays, believe that there's no such love that lasts forever. Yes, maybe because they had been in such context; the heartbreaks, mistrusts, broken promises, etc. Name it and they already had it. With that, they tend to discourage lovers that even if the latter do have romance, sweet "call-names", longest relationships, gifts, kisses, flowers, -even love itself, they will still go apart. It is like, for them, every sweet "I love you" follows a sad "Goodbye".
This issue of everlasting love's inevitable end is somehow the tension my girlfriend and I have been dealing of. I mean, I believe we do have the proper ingredients for a perfect relationship; trust, loyalty, respect, obedience, and all. We do things in appropriate measures; we do understand each other's differences and weaknesses and we do treasure our similarities and strengths. In other words, as far as I know, we are indeed "perfect". But nevertheless, people around us somehow impose that even if everything seems to be impeccably fit for us, we will still end things up between us. It's like no matter how or what, things will still wane between us two, like a torrential flood; no one can escape such terror.
Well, perhaps, as what Confucius said: "One must not lose hope. What prevails is a problem that can still be solved". Even if everybody and everything around us is able to prove that we will not last forever, we must still be able to hope that someday, as what fairy tales tell us, there is still going to be a "happily ever after". Like Confucius, we are strong enough not to flee such indubitable trepidation coming to our way, for actually it is dubitable; Well, who knows? Right?
What I am trying to say is that, it is not the lengthiness of this "forever-love" that stretches out more than a human being's lifespan which makes it's occurrence impossible; for it is actually the lovers' wrong actions which makes it unachievable. As what Confucius advised us: "When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don't adjust the goals, adjust the steps". Hence it is really not the idea of believing a life-lasting love that needs to be altered, for it is the incorrect action steps of the lovers that needs to be so because these are the ones that somehow hinder the situation. Like Confucius' dream of peace and order, such dream is not the problem, it is the people's chaotic and messy way of life which is. If only the Way was embraced by the people, as what he said, there is no need for him to change things.
Going back, yes, it is really a hard time to have somebody to love; you are somewhat obligated to do efforts and stuffs, you tend to make decisions as if they were of life and death situations, you make yourself do difficult things, you make yourself worry, sad, depressed, stressed, stretched and all other painful things that you can ever imagine.
But when both of you will not only endure these things mentioned, but will also take the very risk that no matter what others will say; that even if it is imposed that your separation with each other is, let's say, the truth; that even if you know that you will still go back to what were both of you was before, -strangers, and still both of you sees it as something worth trying for and will choose to be with each other come what may, you know what dear, it is definitely LOVE.
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