Obedience against Will?

In order to be loyal to one's parents, one must observe obedience. Obedience, in a way that one must "obey" a certain way of "obedience". In other words, one must not just impose his/her own way of obeying his/her parents; he/she is to abide by a particular and authentic method which is: to submit CONSCIOUSLY to that of their parents' verdicts.

Consciously, for the fact that one must not conform or follow carelessly. Even of the fact that he/she is only a child, who is under his/her parents, he/she must be able to somehow hash out as lightly as possible such of their ruling; question what is needed to be questioned, clarify what is needed to be clarified but, in a soft manner. In other words, the child has also something to say about his/her parents' ruling, especially in the times where their way of ruling is unbearable for the side of the child.

But take note: "As lightly as possible". Even if one's parents are wrong, he/she, as their child, must be able to establish such respect to those of his/her parents. Respect, not to the extent that the child must tolerate such wrongdoing because it is his/her parents', but respect in the sense that he/she is able to address to them such inefficiency and incompetence as gentle as possible for they are still his/her parents, for one cannot deny the fact that it will really hurt them if one will not address such effectively. And from that of hurting them, uprises a tension between that of the child and his/her parents.

However, such practice of obedience however prohibit the freewill of the child. "Will" here is to be describe as one's individual preference which is even though bombarded by such controlling factor (example here is that of the parents') can still be managed to be pursued upon. It is what Nietzsche referred as "transcendence"; the ability to somehow transcend over an unendurable and unbeatable situation.

This notion of the will however, is not exercised, therefore, opposite to what is mentioned to be as filial obedience. If one is really to follow his/her will, especially in the case where one's preference is different to that of their parents', he/she must disobey his/her parents. And if he/she is to obey his/her parents, one must therefore let go of his/her will and submit to that of their parents'. But are these two, obedience and will, really antithetical to each other, that the presence of one cancels out the other?

No, for one can willfully obey his/her parents. To prefer to that of their authority wholeheartedly is the only way one can practice both one's freewill and obedience to parents at the same time. Well, it doesn't mean that once one is to submit to his/her parents, he/she is not free then, just as if one will defy his/her parents, he/she is automatically free. Therefore, to accept that freedom is not a thing that is to be given by such circumstances (ex: defiance against parents) to that of the person, but rather a thing that should be given by the person to his self (something to be seen whenever one prefers to see it even under such control), is a key to live a righteous life.