Non-coercivi-TAO

"If you force things, it will not happen..."

In our day-to-day life, it is really hard to achieve something because, whether we accept it or not, people will really do "business" in our own "businesses". What I'm trying is that, no matter what, other people will really have a part in your life. This works especially in a task, wherein you are expected to do something with the accompaniment of others. Let's say, such task given is so great that it requires a right amount of hardship in order to be accomplished. Such being "hard" of the task, though, is usually worsen when you are to rely on other people; you become dependent to such to the point that you have no control of it which would somehow widen the possibilities of the task's failure. It's like you are riding on a vehicle with another person who drives the car. Technically, you will really have no assurance (especially if we will say that this "another" person is a total stranger) that he/she will drive safely; he/she could be an insane one who will just bump off the vehicle to another, or maybe he/she doesn't really know how to drive. Yes, you must trust your fellow person, but it is so hard; I mean you can lose your life in just a matter of possibility that your driver's kind'a cracked. The point here is, it is really hard to rely to another individual especially if it is a hard task.

Such hardness then penetrates the tendency of you to, instead, step forward and do the authoritarian-like thing of imposing to others what should be done. In other words, since you don't have trust to your neighbors, you will just do it and force it yourself. Although the negativity, is not only thrown to you for doing a much more bigger sole mission (which is usually my thing when I sense out that there is something  to be done and only I am the one who knows it), but also to your companions. Since it is your way that is only heard in the task proper, they will not feel the eagerness to do it, because just like you not trusting them, they also don't trust you. Thus, the task will still not work out; there will be nothing done using force/coercion/authority.

As the way of Tao would assert, there is really nothing done through force. If you will not put force forward, you will be open to the fact that your's (idea) is isn't that totally good after all. And your fellow task companions will learn to understand your viewpoint, and will not just adhere to your commands. Your act then becomes one with a future that is determined through reason and not by authority. By then, there would be something brought from it, not like the first, which will just lead to nothing. That's the idea of the Tao of doing something from nothing; you have done your task (something) from not imposing your own grounds to accomplish it (nothing).